Mentoring for Leadership
Part Four
Part One
Part Two
Part Three
Part Four
Part Five


This is a typical six-point mentoring style that is regularly used in Christian ministry. It is an exemplary “start-to-finish” model that can be applied in many scenarios of mentor / mentoree relationships. Point # 1 and point # 7 are one in the same.    


1). I’m doing it on my own

The process starts by someone displaying their talents, skills and/or abilities in a natural environment which is easily observed by a variety of people. The potential mentoree is drawn to the mentor or possibly just to the mentor’s presentation of skills or abilities. 


2). Watch me do it

At this point the connection of relationship is established between the active mentor and the mentoree. The mentor is aware that the mentoree is watching the obvious processes that will eventually develop the mentoree. This may or may not be after an obvious invitation to enter into a formal mentoring relationship.  


3). Assist me in doing it

In this stage of the mentoring relationship, The mentoree becomes a “hands on” assistant to the active mentor in the desired activities. There is generally a noticeable amount of verbal instruction also accompanying this stage of the development.  




4). Let's do it together

This stage is much like the previously describe stage, only with less instructive qualities and more emphasis placed on support, teamwork and partnering together in accomplishing the final results and goals. The mentoree should be a very definable part of the activity or process on which the mentoring relationship is instituted. 


5). I'll assist you in doing it

The mentor and the mentoree now reverse participatory roles from the third stage we previously discussed. The mentoree should be displaying more dynamic skills in leading the process or situation and relying less on the active mentor’s guidance and example. 


6). I'll watch you do it 

At this point the mentoree should be capable of accomplishing the task without the assistance or advice of the mentor, even thought the mentor is present and observing. This is the time when the mentor can affirm the accomplishment and development of the mentoree in the desired skill set.



7). Now you’re doing it on your own (in reality this is point # 1) 

This is the final stage of the mentoring process where the mentor is no longer present in the situation and circumstances and the mentoree is now able and accomplishing the desired results in a competent and recognizable way.   

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