is a typical six-point mentoring style that is regularly used in Christian
ministry. It is an exemplary “start-to-finish”
model that can be applied in many scenarios of mentor / mentoree relationships. Point # 1 and point # 7 are one in the
1). I’m doing it on my own
process starts by someone displaying their talents, skills and/or abilities in
a natural environment which is easily observed by a variety of people. The
potential mentoree is drawn to the
mentor or possibly just to the mentor’s presentation of skills or abilities.
2). Watch me do it
this point the connection of relationship is established between the active
mentor and the mentoree. The mentor
is aware that the mentoree is
watching the obvious processes that will eventually develop the mentoree. This may or may not be after
an obvious invitation to enter into a formal mentoring relationship.
3). Assist me in doing it
this stage of the mentoring relationship, The mentoree becomes
a “hands on”
assistant to the active mentor in the desired activities. There is generally a
noticeable amount of verbal instruction also accompanying this stage of the
4). Let's do it together
stage is much like the previously describe stage, only with less instructive
qualities and more emphasis placed on support, teamwork and partnering together
in accomplishing the final results and goals. The mentoree
should be a very definable part of the activity or process
on which the mentoring relationship is instituted.
5). I'll assist you in doing it
mentor and the mentoree now reverse
participatory roles from the third stage we previously discussed. The mentoree should be displaying more
dynamic skills in leading the process or situation and relying less on the
active mentor’s guidance and example.
6). I'll watch you do it
this point the mentoree should be
capable of accomplishing the task without the assistance or advice of the
mentor, even thought the mentor is present and observing. This is the time when
the mentor can affirm the accomplishment and development of the mentoree in the desired skill set.
7). Now you’re doing it on your own (in
reality this is point # 1)
is the final stage of the mentoring process where the mentor is no longer
present in the situation and circumstances and the mentoree
is now able and accomplishing the desired results in a
competent and recognizable way.